Goal Setting Activity
We may be approaching the end of 2018, but it is never too late or early to set goals. And this year I’m sharing my goal setting knowledge with Mia as well as my parents - there is no age restriction on setting goals.
At work in the corporate world, I was always focused on setting S.M.A.R.T. goals:
Specific - what is your specific goal?
Measurable - how will you measure success with the goal you set?
Actionable - what actions do you need to take to make this goal happen?
Realistic - ensure your goal is realistic for you as you are today and the timeframe you have. If the goal is too big and too far in the future, then consider setting smaller goals that help you reach the larger one.
Timely - set a deadline for when you plan to accomplish your goal
This approach has both succeeded and failed for me. Some goals collected dust while others were accomplished with great success.
I recently came across an article from Whitney English (click HERE to read it), who shares what H.E.A.R.T. goals are all about:
H - Help Yourself. You have to take care of you.
E - Everyone Else. People matter.
A - Attitude & Academics. Never stop learning.
R - Resources. Steward time, money & energy well.
T - Trade & Business. Business comes last.
I absolutely love the H.E.A.R.T. approach because it acknowledges that I am human and need to account for me, my community, efforts to grow personally, etc.
So can we combine the two? I think so, let’s give it a try:). This year I want to make sure I set goals for myself as an athlete, mother, wife, entrepreneur, and employee. Here are some examples:
As an athlete:
Goal: Compete in the 2018 Ironman 70.3 Mont-Tremblant and hold an IF (intensity factor, related to power) of .7+ throughout the bike leg of the race and negative split on the run holding my Pace Zone 3-4 throughout.
To achieve this I will start my official training in January and ensure that I perform fitness tests every 4-6 weeks to check on my progress. I can easily leave it at that, but because I’m a breastfeeding mom and have a toddler in day care, I know that I also need to account for (a) time off due to sickness and (b) time off due to caring for the girls when they get sick. So while I like to be organized and stick to a strict plan, I also make room for real life and need to stay flexible.
Now, after reading above, can you tell me what parts of SMART and HEART I’ve included in my goal?
So far I have SMART and HE. Some of A is in there with my attitude but I will need to make sure I stay on top of my Academics and stay on top of learning throughout this process since I’m still relatively new to being an active athletic mom with two kids.
As a mom:
Goal: To slow down when I’m with my girls so that I can be present, be fully engaged and listen to them. To make this specific I’d say that this is most realistic in the afternoon after day care pick-up (the morning is busy because I am running around to get kids dressed and fed for the day). When I get Mia from day care I need to make sure that I slow down and take the time to truly be present and listen to how she is doing and what she wants to do together. This won’t have a deadline because as a parent I will commit to keeping this goal a top priority for as long as I live.
What actions do I need to take to make this happen? First I’ll need to make sure that I am not on my phone (for social media, taking calls, texting, etc.), and that dinner is prepared in advance.
Of course if there’s an emergency then I’ll address that and pick up the phone, but in general there should be no reason why we can’t have time fully dedicated to our kids.
I have many MANY more goals, but still need to work through them:). And if I don’t have them done by December 31st, then that’s ok and I’ll keep developing them as we move into the new year.
It’s also important to note that you CAN fail throughout your journey to realizing your goal(s). We are on a journey of learning, becoming our best selves, and so failure is usually part of the process - at least for me it has been. And I want to ensure I carry this message to my girls too as I introduce them to Goal Setting.
With Mia this year, I’ll share everything above in a way that makes sense to her. Here is how I’ve started to approach it:
Goal Setting with my daughter:
Have a casual chat about things she likes to do (let your child lead the conversation and don’t guide him/her to what you want them to say):
“I want to be a ballerina”, is what Mia started with when we chatted. This comes from us reading 5-Minute Stories for Fearless Girls by Sarah Howden.
Ask her how she plans to become a ballerina? I did have to probe a bit by asking things like “will you want to take ballet lessons to learn from a real life ballerina?”, “when do you want to start taking lessons?”, “what do you think you’ll need to get started?”
Because my daughter can’t write or read yet (she’s 3 and still learning), I’m taking this goal to the board and together with Mia we will make a vision board of all the exciting (and realistic) goals she has/will set for the year ahead. I will make it clear to her that this board isn’t fixed and that we can always move things around and remove/add new goals.
Is this something you’ve done before for yourself or with your kids? I’d love to hear how it went:)
Until next time,